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 Relationship Phases

  The Single-life Meeting new potensial partners In Love Establishment as a couple Life's natural phases and changes Arisen crises and conflicts For couples that are separated   When divorce is a fact














Secondary Symptoms


*loss of appetite




*low self-esteem/insecurity

*feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, a longing for purpose



*concentration difficulties

*emotion deprivation

*muscular pain/tension


Secondary Symptoms (previously mentioned)



Secondary Symptoms (previously mentioned)





  When you think about it, there are quite a few potential partners to be found out there. Not all of them will or can be a partner you would or could share your life together with. Even though this may be true, you always have a responsibility in working on your own personal development. It works with your personal happiness, which in turn makes you an attractive potential partner that others will want to get to know. Being single is the perfect chance to invest time, energy and focus on this process. You will sooner or later come across chances for potential relationships. Each time you do, you will assess how right each of these chances/people are for you. You can use some time on this, however it usually happens quite quickly for most people. Once again, it's important that you are working on your personal development. It is vital that you are centered within yourself in your life-decisions. You will become more aware of who you are, and where you stand.  Assessment- phases of others will flow with more ease. Personal development and awareness help you to make better decisions so that you'll invest in a person that best fits you. You will be in greater control of where you want your life to go. You know of this wonderful phase of being in love! Right? It speaks for itself. In this phase you emotionally open up to another person. You are vulnerable, and at the same time you aim to trust that special person to not take advantage of, or manipulate you. After all, you don't want your heart broken. It's of importance that you invest yourself in the right person. If not, it's important that you can handle the disappointment of a broken heart.

If your love is reciprocated, you just may try a permanent relationship on for size. Most people long to spend as much time as possible with their new love. This serves the purpose of experiencing and discovering a new "union". Many people begin to discover the beginning signs of insecurity, jealousy, negative habits, etc.

You have to be prepared for the reality of sharing your love. That is, when the infatuation calms down, and everyday life comes around again. This work and preparation can be done without killing the charm of being in love. It's an excellent time to work on "togetherness". It's a great opportunity, because both of you will be feeling emotionally positive, open, and motivated!

Marriage or living under the same roof becomes a reality in this phase of the relationship. It's not easy learning to live together. It can be difficult incorporating the personal goals and values of two individuals into one life together. Decisions about where you'll live, whether to have children and how many, your economy, etc., characterizes this phase. In addition to this, you two may differ in opinions about the concepts of love, about caring for each other, and as a consequence, how much time you should spend together as a couple. Many experience the need to spend more time with friends and hobbies after an intense phase of infatuation. If you both have children from previous relationships, the challenge will be even greater.

Pentad can help couples in this phase to create common ground and definitions to concepts that are often at the root of conflict and tension. Choosing the book, "Absolute Bliss" is a wise choice to work on all of the above, and at the same time it has a harmonizing effect on your relationship. The goal is to better prepare you for the life and future you'll share together as a couple.

 Each individual has responsibility for their own happiness and self-care. Keeping yourself in the development mode, keeps your relationship in growth. It helps prevent the pitfalls of stagnation,  and eventual burn-out.  

Education, career, children being born, children moving out, a sex-life that changes throughout a lifetime together, loving feelings that can change, the need for personal fulfillment, menopause, changing residences, and retirement. These are all examples of life's natural changes. It's the ebb and flow of life. They affect each individual and they affect the well-being of the relationship.

Getting through these changes strengthened as a couple, with the experience of renewal, well-being and purpose, isn't easy. Both individuals, and the couple as a unit, need to handle these types of challenges. It is a given that the most intimate relations you have are the ones that are most likely affected. Quite a few people and couples want and need help in gaining clarity, focus and support. They want to ensure that their lives and relationships will move forward in a positive direction. It is essential to get through it in a positive frame of mind, and strengthened as a couple.

All couples will experience problems, conflicts, and maybe even a crises or two throughout a lifetime together. It's part of life's lessons and challenges.

Infidelity, addictions, illness, accidents, sexual difficulties, and violence are serious problems that hurt the relationship. However, a serious crises can culminate from long-lasting disagreements concerning just about anything in the intimate relationship.

Many couples will discuss divorce as a possible solution. The common denominator is that both parties are feeling insecure and unsure that they can continue their relationship in the condition that it's in.

To get through a crisis it's important that you receive help in problem solving, which is accomplished through changed attitudes and behavior. You need to understand what the problems are all about, and you need to learn different methods in managing them.

With help and work the prognosis for getting through a crises is quite good. Not only is it good, but you two just may end up strengthened as a couple.

We often think of a separation as the waiting time before a divorce becomes final. However, quite a few couples choose separation to gain some distance from their problems for awhile, and they hope that they will find their way back to each other.

There are no absolutes in that which couples will choose to do. There have actually been many people who have managed to rediscover their relationship in a positive sense. It takes work and learning anew, for it to be successful.

No matter what the intention is when a separation is chosen, it still leads to a new situation in life.  If there are children involved it becomes essential to adapt to a new way of cooperating. It is not an easy thing to accomplish as children may find themselves in a process of grieving. An absolute need for help usually reveals itself.

Believe it or not, you will also experience a process of grievance. You will need to identify it, and process it. Preferably prior to jumping into a new relationship. The reason for this is to not hurt a new partner with old issues that you haven't dealt with      

How can you get through a break- up with your honor and self-esteem intact?

The work all begins with your inner thoughts and feelings. When you are dealing with grievance, it's an excellent chance to develop as a person. You'll make wiser decisions in the future and you will hopefully avoid making the same mistakes in new relationships. In other words, you learn something new, and this is of value.

Your work on yourself is also important for your children. The better you and your ex feel about yourselves, the better your  children will handle the situation. If you feel harmonious, you'll have more patience in dealing with the reactions and sorrow of your children.