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Absolute Bliss,
A Woman's Guide to
Relationship Happiness
This 295 page book was published in Canada, and a revised
version of it in e-book format is available here at
Pentad!
Happiness, integrity, boundaries, personal growth,
adult love, intimacy, and more. A very real process and the usual
pitfalls that you won't find described like this anywhere else.
Pentad articulates the process of changing your life and love relation.
It shares the secrets of the bumpy patches where most people feel
they fail while working on their relationship. It prepares couples
for their future no matter how long they've been together.
Take a look,
Absolute Bliss
How, What, and Why! Experiencing "the ruts" of insecurity,
stagnation, or uncertainty?
Are you missing the important keys and steps
to positive change? This e-book will get you going in the right direction. When
life and/or love
reaches a certain level of "the ruts",
it's time to do something! It's not as difficult as it seems."
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Intimate relationships are not always a stroll in the park, are
they? They can feel quite challenging at times. Couples use numerous
years to figure out some sort of balancing act between love and
'coupleness'. I cannot count the times I have heard people talk
about their relationships as being entities of "give and take".
Verbalized from countless many is the opinion that this is central
to a love relationship. For those that do not hold this opinion,
they often entertain the thought in times of relationship trouble.
Exclaimed in pure frustration are variations of, "if he/she really
loved me, then they would.." (fill in the blank). The more
frustrated some become about the, "what is what, in the what", the
more muddled thinking becomes. Suddenly love, relationship, and
various synonyms of duty slowly mesh into one. The path forward to
arguments and chasms, inevitable.
When Pentad opened its doors several years ago, the focus of my work
was relationships and couples, in addition to holding seminars for
women. My every waking moment was consumed with these subjects. The
more I dug into the depths of common concepts taken for granted, the
more frustrated I became at the media's portrayal of that which was
supposed to work to save relationships, or what people should do to
"spice" up their love lives. So little substance, and people eat it
up. Why? Because they count on the media's use of experts. They
count on them knowing what they are talking about.
I was asked at various times throughout the years to do commentary
work for a couple of International women's magazines. Time and time
again disappointed by the angles chosen in such articles, and with
the knowledge that more women buy into what they are reading, than
they many times will admit. Especially where relationships are
concerned. I worked at providing a different perspective of deeper
reflection, noticing that my advice was so often the exact opposite
of the words of others in the field.
I was frustrated, because I know how many families are hurting out
there, and there are so very many children involved. How do I know
people buy into the ideas? I know, because they were the types of
things I heard verbalized in my office working with couples. The
many tips and books out there not only set people up to fail, but
many end up feeling like failures. I realize the harshness of the
statement, but it is my honest opinion.
Should people be told what they want to hear? Or, what they truly
need to hear? I remember a former client overseas joking about my
swift-kick method. I am known for giving a swift kick in the behind
when talk stagnates in the dark swamp of, "going nowhere". It
doesn't happen often, but when I'm hired to work for a person's or
couple's success, I take it seriously.
I painfully sense that many are up in the lofty branches of a
rotting tree, desperately attempting to paint dry leaves green, all
the while ignoring the condition of the roots and trunk. I don't
know. A quick moving society needs quick solutions, and pretty green
leaves. There no longer seems to be the time to work at that which
really works, and it can take time. There does not seem to be time
to work on changing core beliefs and attitudes. In the scheme of
bigger and better, simplicity may not be fancy enough. Frilly quick
solutions become mindset. They become a cultural standard, and even
though people realize that they could not be farther from the truth
of the realities they live.
So, what is love? A good place to begin is to ask yourself what it
is that you attempt to satisfy. What is your current definition of
love? Of relationship? My next article about love and acceptance may
awaken a few new thoughts. It may encourage you to redefine or
adjust your definitions. All the while attempting to find better
solutions that work.
Be well, Stay safe, and
warm regards,
Tamera Daun
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