Love and Acceptance
A Woman's Guide to Relationship Happiness
Is love, acceptance? Is acceptance, love? Let's take a look at how
the terms love and acceptance co-exist in the realm of our social
Aside from initial infatuation and attraction, we humans wish to be accepted for who we are as individuals. This is a vital piece of the puzzle, and I would go as far as to postulate that it is also a necessary premise for the chemistry/attraction to continue in a long-term relationship. In other words, a 'chicken-or-egg' type scenario.
I'm certain that if you take a look back at your own personal history, you will find numerous examples in which you adapted or did what you had to do to 'fit in' somewhere, or with someone. So many times people feel as though they have compromised themselves beyond a point that 'feels right'. Well, in the desire to experience love, too many attempt to be someone they are not.
This does not mean that we are incapable of changing habit or developing in the spirit of maturation and compromise toward win/win results. But, the point is that people dismiss who they are in order to experience love, when the acceptance of who they are should be an existing premise before further exploring a potential relationship.
The bottom line is that people cannot expect or wait for others to give them this acceptance. You are who you are at any given point in time in your development. It is something you must be, and caretake. From this perspective, acceptance is not necessarily the same thing as love, and the opposite may be better termed as non-acceptance. You have the choice between the two when considering a future partner. It's time for people to set quality standards for what they ultimately want, rather than hoping that it will eventually develop or happen.
It is well worth the time to explore terms such as these. What do they really mean? Are they the same, or different? How do they differ? Then ask yourself, "How do they operate in my life"? "How can I better clarify"? And, "How can I use this knowledge to change aspects in my life for the better"?
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